Its a common case of immaturity, when you believe what your friends tell you about a complete stranger, but Its a sorry state of immorality, when you believe what complete strangers tell you about your friend
“A wicked person listens to gossip and a liar gives ear to a deceitful tongue” Proverbs 17:4
“Gossip is a dainty morsel eaten with great relish” Proverbs 26:22
They say you are what you eat, what you ingest on the inside eventually shows up on the outside, garbage in, garbage out. So why do people listen to gossip (garbage) so readily? Well, we eat when we are hungry or lacking in energy and the nutrients necessary for us to be strong and healthy, it is no different when it comes to our emotional and psychological health.
If you don’t feed and replenish your soul with what is positive and beneficial or with something of substance that sustains and lifts you up, then you will begin to crave the things that feel good but only prop you up temporarily.
Gossip is that sugary sweet stuff that gives you a momentary rush of energy but diminishes rapidly bringing you down even lower, ready for your next fix. Empty people, devoid of what it takes to be healthy on the inside ‘need’ to listen to gossip; it makes them feel better about themselves and better than others. It’s a desire/craving rooted in selfishness and ego. It’s in a weak person’s interest to believe anything negative and terrible about others.
Proper investigation into whether or not what you are hearing is true is too time consuming; your need to satisfy your ego is much more urgent to you and therefore takes precedence over waiting to find out what the truth is, you can’t wait that long nor do you want to. This is why you succumb to gossip every time, you have no resistance and no incentive to resist.
Therefore how you respond to gossip reveals far more about you than it does about the person being slandered. It exposes what’s on the inside of you, the emotional poverty, emptiness and weakness or the contempt, hatred and jealousy you ‘already’ have for that person. It leaves you feeling exposed, naked and ashamed.
Emotionally healthy people don’t delight in hearing the worst about others, they want to believe the good; they want proof, they want truth straight from the horse’s mouth rather than questionable information from an unreliable source.
Lack of inner contentment and the need to prove that you’re the ‘good one’ the ‘nice one’ will continue to drive your inquisitiveness or curiosity about other people. It’s an unhealthy characteristic; a nosiness that can take you to even lower depths like invading a persons privacy for instance, which most ‘decent’ people would find quite disturbing and a bit creepy not to mention immoral.
Unchecked this could lead to a much deeper psychological problem i.e. Bullying, Stalking, Harassment, Sabotage and other types of destructive behaviour.
People are not property, you don’t own them, they don’t have to answer to you or explain everything about themselves to you; you have no ‘right’ to know anything about them, and to behave as if you do is arrogant at best and psychopathic at worst.
If you do desire to know something about a person, then healthy, open and honest communication ‘with that person’ is the only moral, ethical and decent way. Ultimately nosiness and gossip will destroy and embarrass you. The pleasure and delight doesn’t last for very long, it’s a poison that contaminates and darkens the soul, your condition is worse than before and so is your need for the gossip that makes you ‘feel better’. It’s a vicious cycle, maybe it’s time for a new diet, a new mind set, a new you.
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